A modern-day goddess is the divine feminine incarnate with Gaia. The energy of the earth mother’s womb is carried forward in the essence of all light beings. It is abundant. It is brilliantly intelligent. It is nurturing, contractive, expansive and constantly moving in a spiral creating the vortex of transformation—creating the momentum of change.
I find it interesting that when you look up the most commonly searched question about me on GOOGLE, you get “Has Kristine Carlson re-married?”
I don’t consider that the gauge for my healing from loss. I always say, “we don’t move on from our losses, we move forward.”
Last night, I was slumped in front of a T.V. show—an old episode of Law & Order that really had me hooked. My daughter walked in to talk with me, and I wasn’t listening very well because I was distracted by the T.V. Moreover, I was also in a mood--a low one. I was super tired and and I just wasn’t being all that present. Something, apparently, was going on for her and she stormed out feeling dejected.
It’s all divinely planned and given—not always in the pretty package.
Byron Katie says, “Life doesn’t happen to us; life happens for us.”
If we’re honest, much of our lives have been planned by our egos-- egos that react from the fear of survival and the need to build an identity.
This morning I woke up to the most vibrant sunrise. Pinks and oranges amidst lavender filled the early morning sky—and I thought to myself: That’s what living vibrantly looks and feels like: A breathtaking sunrise bursting in beauty to light up the morning—to light up LIFE.
If you could adopt this one idea, "it's all perfectly imperfect as it is,” you will free yourself from so much pain and suffering. Your experience of every moment will exponentially deepen with acceptance, and you will become liberated from having unreasonable expectations that can be a ball and chain to your inner experience of joy.
I learned the art of listening to the feelings behind the words one day as Richard and I sat, ironically, in our large house at our children’s miniature table and chairs. It was a funny sight, this grown couple choosing this space to confront their issues while their kids were at school. We were having a rare “marriage moment.”
Letting go isn’t easy, but life gets easier as I let go.
Holding on too tightly to anything causes pain and suffering.
Attachment is in our nature when it comes to being attached to people we love. It’s a natural and healthy thing to bond with our Mother and Father from birth.
My favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quote: “A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it's in hot water.”
We all want to give advice, don’t we? In fact, many of us dive right into solving problems—when all that’s really needed is simply a good ear--an opportunity to get clarity and strength back from having some support.
I recently had some minor surgery, and it forced me to slow down to a snail's pace and stay home. At first, it was all a physical thing. Any kind of surgery completely knocks you down for a few days as your body rushes all the energy and blood to heal the trauma of a knife.
When I was a mother to two small children, I would at times fantasize (in my fatigued state of mind or a lower mood than what was usual) about what it would be like to run away. I knew when I had those thoughts that I was long overdue for some me time. What I needed was a safe haven and a place of recovery to replenish and revitalize, so I could return to my busy life with the kind of enthusiasm that only comes from respite away.
Listen, listen, listen.
My mind is quiet and is now primed for that familiar voice: my writer’s voice.
When I’m not trying too hard or thinking too much, and I least expect it, she’s suddenly knocking on my psyche. (Sometimes, she whispers softly or cackles like a morning rooster!)
Often, it appears that life is running us. It feels like our circumstances are beyond our control.
This may, in fact, be true to some extent, but you don’t have to become the Victim. You don’t have to eliminate any circumstances of your life in order to feel better about them--but you must change your relationship and your mental dynamic toward them.
Recently, I was playing in the snow. I grabbed a clump of snow in my mittens and made it into a ball. I began to roll it round and round until it was big enough to be the base of a snowman. The more I rolled it, the more form and weight it took on.
There are so many kinds of losses to grieve--not just the obvious in loss of a person. Sometimes, we grieve our perceived lost health.
I received a beautiful message from a woman suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome that inspired this blog post. I’m not a doctor, but dealing with disease points me in the direction of Louise Hay and her work in the Emotional body. Her work shows that emotions literally shows up in physical symptoms. I love her book You Can Heal Your Life. I’ve always had a copy lying around the house as a “go to.”