Follow your Joy

When you ask people all around the globe the question, “What are you most longing for in your marriage, in your family and in your life?” The not so surprising answer is: Happiness.

People long to feel happy and at ease with life.

I’ve studied the art of happiness, right alongside Richard, for over thirty years. When I look back, one of the things we believed is that happiness is possible every day. That deep belief is what drives us all to the gateway –the entry point of a happy life.

Now, this is not to say, that every day is filled with happiness but when happiness is your expectation, then the chances for reaching that natural good feeling inside is all the more likely.

Lately, I’ve realized that the one thing I’ve always done is to move away from those things that make me feel unhappy and instead move toward my joy.

When you follow your joy—joy grows bigger in every moment.

If you can, first, identify what makes you unhappy and then spend the same amount of time inquiring about what brings you joy—you’ll expose a trail for yourself. A path of joy will emerge that awakens you to more passion and purpose in all aspects of your life.

As you define what brings you joy and notice more deeply what that feels like in big ways—you can begin to look for the smaller ways joy winks at you.

When you find out what feels deeply satisfying even if it’s a simple cup of tea, tarry there a bit longer, and notice the feeling of joy that wells up inside and spend some time nurturing that feeling by placing your attention mindfully there. Joy can be as simple as a deep and fulfilling cup of pure contentment.

Following your joy in small ways will help you see the extraordinary in the ordinary in every day…(One of my favorite teachings in the Don’t Sweat wisdom.)

It’s always the small things that bring us joy that we remember most.

For me, it’s the moments of laughter that are spontaneous, and it’s small hands in mine. Today, I’m feeling the big joy of having all my girls home with me—including the unborn one in my daughters belly. I feel joy at noticing the cloud formations in the sky. I feel joy in writing for you now while it’s a blustering storm outside.

Follow your joy—in small moments of ordinary—and you will be on your way to living your most extraordinary vibrant life.

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By | 2017-08-11T17:14:43+00:00 August 11th, 2017|Living The Big Stuff|4 Comments


  1. Joy February 23, 2017 at 7:01 am - Reply


  2. Che February 23, 2017 at 10:57 am - Reply

    Speaking only for me …today, right now..I am having an unhappy day … unhappy that I am unhappy. Where is this unhappiness coming from? As much as I push it away … avoid it .. close my eyes to it … busy myself to it …. justify my reasons …. I KNOW the answers …there are many where (s) … there is truthfully only one reason for it all. Control. Control of everything and everyone around me, in my family, friends and in the world right now … especially for my country Canada that I am blessed beyond words to be a 3rd generation (Father’s side)and 4th generation (Mother’s side) Canadian.
    Yes, I am overwhelmed with unhappiness..sadness..anger..disappointment…grief… doesn’t any one who has the power to DO something GET IT…STOP IT???!!! We are ALL HUMAN BEINGS first and foremost!!! Yes, I do believe in God. Yes, I do believe in the predictions from both the Old testaments concealed and the New testaments revealed. Yes, I should be calm unsurprised by it ALL! YET it pains me beyond description and..
    NO I am not God…a god…a martyr…a hero…a saint…a champion..seeking attention…to be right… or a zillion other descriptions. NO I do not need or desire to receive advice or suggestions to change this moment in time for me. I need and desire to embrace this unhappiness..pain right now. This too shall pass.

    Thank you for listening to me, right now, right this moment in time. Blessings. ?

    • Kristine Carlson February 24, 2017 at 7:51 am - Reply

      Che, It’s important to follow your instincts about allowing your negative feelings and emotions to expel. It’s ok to feel them and be with them–but they are not YOU. I love that you are using “this too shall pass” because it will indeed pass. Much love to you…

  3. Paulette February 26, 2017 at 9:19 am - Reply

    I think so called negative emotions are powerful as they can propel great change and may expose us to the future path we must find. I try to take note of what is callenging me and try to find peace through other people’s endeavours which are sometimes far greater than mine. The challenges can bring otherwise uncovered strengths to the for and build help to build resilience – you need to hold tight until equilibrium restores and strangely it alway does ‘no storm lasts forever.’

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