If I could impart one of the most powerful themes in the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff books it’s this: When you react to life, you might as well drop something on your foot (ouch!) because the words you speak and the actions you take from knee-jerk reactions will play havoc in your life. You’ll have many regrets in the wake of your reactions.
It’s podcast day, and I am excited to share “What’s Next and What Now?” with you.
We’ll be talking about the tough waves of change (that are inevitable in mid-life, aren’t they?), and how we can navigate through them with passion and purpose. Transition can be the perfect opportunity for awakening to your most vibrant life yet.
When you’ve lived half your life and you’re in mid-life, you may find yourself asking the question you thought you had solved already--the question you were asking fresh out of college--”What now? What do I want to be when I grow up?” For whatever reason, you are at a juncture where you are craving what you are most afraid to accept: CHANGE!
I’m so pleased to share episode #2 of the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, Live the Big Stuff podcast with you. Will you listen in for fifteen minutes?
We’ll start with a short session of guided imagery to set the intention for our time together and bring you fully to the present. Then, we’ll dive into the five principles of mental health and well-being that are woven through the nine books in the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series.
Question: I find it pretty easy to be kind to others, but I’m brutal on myself—any easy suggestions?
I’ve yet to meet a single person who didn’t want a life filled with love. This is impossible, however, without first loving oneself. We must start from within and then move outward.
I have some exciting news to share with you! I’m starting a brand new podcast called Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, Live the Big Stuff. It’s my privilege to continue to share the legacy of my late husband Dr. Richard Carlson through this exciting new avenue. My heart and purpose is to help people live more peaceful, grateful, passionate lives. This podcast is yet another tool to do just that, and today I talk with Shann Vander Leek about my hopes for kicking off this new venture.
I was browsing through Nordstrom the other day (my favorite department store!), and I stopped by a jeans rack. Buying a pair of jeans can be a little like trying on swimsuits and evening dresses. Not always the most fun thing If your body isn’t perfectly proportioned. (and mine is not!). There are just some areas that don’t always fill out and fit in the seams the way I’d like them too. So when I find a pair of jeans that hold it all in well, I grab them! (And, I may grab them in several colors.)
Kahil Gibran says in his tome The Prophet, “Your greatest joy is your sorrow unmasked.”
These seven words spoke to me and whispered hope in my ear as I weathered the tsunami of grief that came after my husband Richard’s transition. I died a death when he did. According to my angel guides, my human transition has taken quite awhile.
Meg Cabot in The Princess Diaries said, “Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the judgement that something is more important.”
Fear is something we all have to deal with in order to progress.
As you know, I unravel life one question at a time, so for the sake of this inquiry I’ll begin by asking: Where does fear come from?
There’s a much younger conversation going on in my head than my 52 years would suggest. My thoughts scream: I’m not done yet! (And I’m sure you’re not done yet, either!)
Like you, I’ve lived an incredibly rich life already.
I’ve raised my kids. They are both college graduates.
They have left the nest and temporarily arrived home again.
I now have three–yes, THREE–grandkids. (I’m Nana! Not Gramma!)
I’m writing to update you on my latest adventures. And, it’s that time of year again…. Do you say this every year too: “Ah, wow! Another birthday?! Already?” The years fly by—most notably on that personal anniversary that celebrates life. As I head into my fifty-second year, it does not go unnoticed by me that I’ve had seven years longer to live than Richard had. If there’s one thing that those people we love who pass on remind us of it’s that we are here to LIVE.
What Now? Blog: Reinventing life, one question at a time… Who is my Inner Critic? How can I bring her out of the closet where I can deal with her?
We are moving right along in the What Now? program. As soon as you allow yourself to move into your imagination, and ignite the dreamer in you, something else will inevitably emerge as an expression of ego. She sits, like a stalker, and waits in the closet, cloaked in fear. It’s that voice that says: You can’t do this because… what if this happens to you? What if you fail; what if you succeed? She is the voice of the inner critic and doubter, and though she lurks in shadow, there are times she comes out with incapacitating force like a gust of wind knocking you down. The doubter brings her fierce intention to maintain the status quo and keep you in a comfort zone, which makes it impossible to move forward and live life with passion and purpose.
What Now? Reinventing life, one question at a time… Who is my Inner Critic? How can I bring her out of the closet?
We are moving right along in the What Now? program. As soon as you allow yourself to move into your imagination, and ignite the dreamer in you, something else will inevitably emerge as an expression of ego. She sits, like a stalker, and waits in the closet, cloaked in fear. It’s that voice that says: You can’t do this because… what if this happens to you? What if you fail; what if you succeed?
What Now? Reinventing life one question at a time… Do I create my reality? & What is my agreement with reality?
It is our inner world that affects our outer world.
Recently, I’ve been revisiting some of Richard’s tapes as well as one of his early mentors in his Ph.D. program, Dr. George Pransky, as they discuss the principles of “Psychology of Mind.” They call it P.O.M. It changes peoples lives because it teaches how to access our mental health with a deeper understanding. These principles certainly altered our course personally and professionally, and it was the starting point for all of our work in the Don’t Sweat series as well as Richard’s early books on happiness.
One big question in reinventing life this week is:
Do I create my own reality?
What Now? Reinventing Life One Question at a Time: What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up? Living Passionately Powered by Purpose
Are you still unable to truly answer that question you’ve been asking yourself since Kindergarten, “What do I want to be when I grow up?”
Well, you’re not alone if you feel unfulfilled in your day-to-day life because only one percent of the population has dared to ask, “What is my life purpose?”
Lit From Within With the Peace of Integrity
I’ve been sitting still and quiet waiting to be inspired to bring the topic of integrity to life for you. It’s 4 a.m. and there are rats scurrying around in my attic—my early morning company. They sound like they are having a party and even, Bear, my golden retriever looks at me with his big brown eyes that say, “Really?” I figure the rat is a totem that has showed up for some reason. (At least that's how I try to make peace with them while I work on a plan to relocate them.) For the Hindus, the rat represents prudence and foresight. So I keep these clever critters in mind as I forge ahead on the topic of Integrity. Here it goes…